Session 14: Be HUMAN Not Perfect

Do you struggle with perfectionism?

Do you find yourself quitting on a dream, hope, vision, or goal as soon as adversity arises, or do you mess up a few days in a row?

 

We get so caught up in doing things right that we lose sight of doing the right things.

We let the things we know we should be doing, such as tasks connected to deeper values, slip from our grasp—all due to the fear of another rejection or failure or even success. 

Here are some practical tips to be human and not perfect. 

  • When you "fall off the wagon," get back on. You mustn't quit. You can rest, but do not give up. Sometimes you win, and sometimes you learn. 

  • No one EVER has completed an experiment or goal perfectly EVER! If they did, the bar was set too low, or they may be telling a white lie. 

  • Kill the ants (automatic negative thoughts): These ants can dominate your life. Address them and squash them.

  • Do not throw a pity party: First off, no one likes to hear it. And secondly, If you take more time to ACKNOWLEDGE your flaws than CELEBRATE your success, you will most like never make it past week 3 of any goal without much hand-holding and support. You go where your mind takes you. 

  • Remember the hard times: The main dropout times for goals are week 3, week 6, and week 15. You are more likely to stick with it if you can do something that brings you joy for almost 4 months. (Hint, this is why this intensive is 16 weeks) 

  • Don't be perfect, be ADAPTABLE: Life has a way of throwing curveballs at you. Don't let a strikeout ruin the entire game. Learn, grow, and adapt in the process.

Talk with your priority people: Let them know if you are struggling. Let them know that you are fighting perfectionism; ask them to help hold you accountable. If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.